Forgive yourself.

” The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don’t have that we would never grow, we would never learn and sure as hell we would never teach.”

Maya Angelou

We all make mistakes but they don’t define us.

I have been on that side of the road, and it is lonely. We wallow in self-doubt and self-hate and regret the things we did in the past. It’s toxic, it’s terrifying.

We mess up time and time again but it is important to acknowledge these mistakes, feel remorses and make sure they won’t happen again.

Truthfully, that’s the hard part. We don’t forget the things we’ve done and end up beating ourselves over it: it is totally unfair.

Letting go is hard but holding on is harder, the longer you hold onto them, the greater burden they become.

Love is key to forgiveness. Never focus on the bad things you’ve done but rather use that energy to love yourself. Love is the blind eye that doesn’t give heed to faults. Rudy franscisco once said” We should love ourselves fiercely, that when others see us they know exactly how it should be done.”

Be grateful for everything you have. No matter how little. Your family, your friends, the sky, the fresh air you breathe.

The reason most of us feel guilt or shame for actions done in the past is because those actions are not in line with our morals and values. Our past wrongs can actually clue us in to what we hold important. By identifying our morals and values, we start to get a clearer picture as to “why” we’re hurting over what we’ve done, or what others did to us.

At some point, you have to accept that the past has happened and you’ve done everything in your power to amend past mistakes. It’s now time to turn the page and accept those events as part of your story. They’ve all contributed to making you who you are. Being grateful for those experiences allows you to move on and truly forgive yourself.

When we learned how to ride a bike, most of us realized it would probably take a few tries before achieving perfection. New behavior and thinking patterns are no different. They’re both skills. Cut yourself some slack while you’re on a new learning curve. Realize that you’re going to make mistakes. We all do.

You are so much more than your past.



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